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Christmas is upon us, there’s no getting around it. Stores are packed with people and product. The Santas of varying sizes and shapes have come out of hibernation to take their rightful place in the middle of your local mall. Christmas tree lots now outnumber Starbucks and the smell of pine seems to be on everything you own. You can try to fight it, but why would you want to?
Everywhere I go, I hear people saying they can’t wait for the holidays to be over. Too much hustle and bustle. Between the parties, the shopping, the wrapping, and the family time; it’s just too much activity for them to handle. If they could blink and it would be January 1st, they’d be happy. To those of you out there that fit this mold, I say bah humbug to you! What you need is a little Christmas spirit.
Christmas is my favorite time of the year. It’s been that way for as long as I can remember. This holiday has always been a big deal in my family, and it’s my family that makes it so special. Growing up, my sister and I were the only kids in the family so Christmas revolved around us. It’s not like we were anybody special, it’s just that there was no one else to spoil so I say revolve away! Anyway, Christmas was a big production then and it still is today. My sister and I are grown and there are a few more kids to spoil, including my own, but the event that is Christmas is as exciting as it ever was. As the big day nears, I knew I wanted to write about it but I wasn’t sure what to talk about. Just thinking about it brought back memories of many Christmases past and that’s when it hit me. What better way to get people into the holiday spirit than by reliving a typical Christmas day. Since I don’t know what a typical Christmas is like for most of you, I’m going to have to use my own experience. For those who could care less how I spent my Christmas as a kid, feel free to leave now (your site visit has already been counted so I don’t care…Grinch!). For the rest of you, settle in for a little Chaney family Christmas, I hope it gets you in the spirit!
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While the calendar says Christmas is a single day, in our family it officially began on Christmas Eve. Waking up that morning was nearly as exciting as what was to come the next day, although the lack of presents under the tree helped to remind me that the real thing was still 24 hours away. Thankfully, I didn’t have to wait that long for a gift since Christmas Eve served as Christmas with my Dad’s family and there were plenty of presents to go around at the house on Diller Avenue. As I learned growing up, clocks move at a slower pace on Christmas Eve than any other day of the year. What? That’s not true? Hmm…always seemed that way to me. Anyway, the festivities of the day didn’t start until the evening usually so waiting around all day was just brutal. It did help build the anticipation though, not that it was needed. My excitement was at an unsafe level already so the waiting literally could have killed me.
Once we arrived at the Chaney house, it was a whirlwind of activity. I tried to eat as fast as possible, sometimes sacrificing taste and cutting down on the number of chews in order to speed the process up. After dinner it was on to the living room where the whole family participated in what became known as “the pageant”. Everyone found a seat and we took turns reading passages from the Bible and singing Christmas carols. Looking back now, it really was a wonderful thing. As a kid however, it only served to delay the opening of presents so I did my best to up the tempo of some classic Christmas music in hopes of gaining a few precious seconds that could be better used to tear off wrapping paper. After what seemed like hours, but was likely only about 15 minutes, the pageant came to a close and it was on to the main event. In the blink of an eye, the family room resembled the aftermath of a tornado. Paper and ribbon strewn about, boxes and bags ripped open, it was quite a scene. At this point, the disappointment that came from knowing there were no more gifts to open was quickly trumped by the anticipation that this was simply Christmas #1 and there was much more to come…but only if we went home and went right to sleep!
As any kid will attest, sleeping on Christmas Eve is not an option. It’s almost not allowed. I’m sure at some point during the night every kid falls asleep for a bit, I mean how else would Santa get in and out without us knowing. But it is definitely the worst night’s sleep a kid can get in the course of the year. Thankfully, I had many toys and games in my room to keep me occupied as I waited for the sun to come up. Most years, my little sister would come into my room and we would discuss the possibilities of what might be waiting for us downstairs. We were instructed by our parents that we were not to go downstairs without them and were not to wake them up prior to a certain time. Each year, we did our best to follow those instructions but inevitably failed. “Is it 8:00 yet?” Georgeann would ask me. “It’s 7:22,” I replied. “That’s close enough!”
We were bouncing off the walls of our parents’ bedroom as they tried to wipe the sleep from their eyes. They’d grumble and moan about how early it was but I knew they were just as excited as we were…at least that’s what I chose to believe. Mom needed her coffee in the morning so she volunteered to head downstairs first to see if Santa had indeed stopped by. We waited at the top of the stairs in breathless anticipation for her to give the go ahead and then we raced down the steps. It’s amazing we didn’t end up in the emergency room each year considering I don’t think we actually touched any of the steps as we charged down them. The Christmas tree was set up in our family room which was at the back-end of the house so as we finished our decent, we weren’t able to see what lay ahead. It wasn’t until we made it through the living room and dining rooms that we were stopped in our tracks by the site of what can only be described as an avalanche of presents under the tree.
Each year on Christmas Eve night I would contemplate the things I thought might have gotten me on the naughty list that year. “I shouldn’t have called Timmy a dork last week, that was so stupid.” I’d think to myself. “And when I knocked over the candy dish a few months ago and blamed it on Georgeann…what was I thinking!” I was always preparing myself for the possibility of little or no presents and each year I was greeted with what seemed like more than the previous year. Just standing there staring at the tree was 5 of the most wonderful seconds I spent each year. But 5 seconds was enough, there was work to be done!
Santa, in his infinite wisdom, had instructed his elves to wrap me and my sister’s gifts in different paper and label them “J” and “G”. In quickly surveying the loot in front of me, I could see it was a pretty even split. Oh well, I suppose she deserved some presents too. We took our spots on opposite sides of the tree and began what was only the first leg of a marathon of present opening that started at our house and would eventually end at our Grandparents’. Despite the scores of gifts, we were able to roll through them in short order and bask in the glow of our bounty. Nearly everything I had written on my list now rested under the tree, with the exception of a gift or two. Mom and Dad would ask if we got everything we wanted and the answer was always yes. We had been told that Santa may have left additional presents for us at our Grandparents’ house as well so there was no time to waste, we had to get up there!
We usually had a couple of hours to waste in between Christmases since we weren’t expected at Grandmom’s until around 1:00pm and we had gotten started with our Christmas while it was still dark outside. I would help Dad with the presents we were taking to their house in an effort to pass the time. There were many gifts to pack up since the whole family would be together. After spending Christmas Eve with Dad’s folks, this was Christmas with Mom’s family and the gift giving was a real event with them. The car was packed and we headed out. My Grandparent’s house was about 12 miles away but the trip seemed to take hours. Finally, we made it to their street and the excitement was at defcon 4! My stomach was churning as we pulled into the driveway and I made a beeline for the front door.
As the door swung open, I was practically swallowed up by the sea of presents that filled the room. If you had to describe the color of the carpet to someone based solely on what you saw on Christmas Day, it would be impossible. The floor was not visible and walking around was not an option. You simply had to make your way through the jungle of gifts, find a spot you could fit in, and get comfortable. When the family got together for normal Sunday dinners, the meal was the highlight of the day. Not on this day however, as dinner was simply a way to re-energize in between gift giving.
Once everyone had arrived, we would traditionally begin with the exchanging of Secret Santa gifts. My sister and I were not involved in this portion of the day since it was only for the “adults”, so we would be thrown the occasional gift to open so we didn’t go crazy waiting for it to be over. Finally, the adult swim was over and the kids were allowed back in the pool! The rest of the afternoon was a blur, I may have blacked out at some point. All I know is at the end of the day, another massive stack of presents sat next to me and any items not previously crossed off the list, now were. As slow as the clocks seemed to move on Christmas Eve, was as fast as they moved on Christmas Day. All the excitement and anticipation that had built up for weeks was over in the blink of an eye. The next several days were spent sorting through the rubble and enjoying the fruits of everyone’s labor. Of course there was the obligatory “fashion show” where I had to try on every piece of clothing I received, but that was tolerable as long as I knew I could play with toys when it was over. Another Christmas in the books, and it was even better than the year before. Time to start preparing for next year and making sure to stay on the right side of Santa’s naughty or nice list.
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So there you go folks, a little trip down memory lane and a glimpse into a typical Christmas in my family. Those are memories I will always cherish and I look forward to making more of them as my own family grows. Hope this helped anyone who was in need of a little holiday cheer. Time to get in the spirit if you haven’t already and for those members of my family out there, better start preparing for another marathon Christmas event!
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I was just sitting back thinking of those days the other day. For being the only child living at Diller Ave, I got to say Christmas Eve was the longest day ever. Grandmom would not let me in the living room until the first guess arived. Once someone got to the house I flew down the stairs said hello gave hug n kisses to whom ever it was . Then started in the living room to see what under the tree. I really didn’t have anything to do on Christmas day. Unless my mom had off for Christmas Day. Christmas at my moms was the weekend after. So yes I miss old Diller Ave house.
Jimmy,
I know you are going to laugh at me but I cried all the way through this. I’m 51 years old and still get excited about Christmas because of all the things you talked about – only now, it’s the being together that takes center stage for me. Thanks for the trip down our lane. See you at G&G’s – right after your stomach does that flip when you cross the bridge over I-95.
Love,
Aunt LeeAnn
I love this! Made me relive my own memories of Christmas Eve and Christmas morning… trips to the different grandparents’ and all. Thanks so much for sharing!
Have a wonderful holiday!
Sarah,
Glad I was able to bring out some Christmas memories for you. Just trying to get people in the spirit! Hope you have a great holiday as well and check back for more of my 30 before 30 soon.
Thanks Jim for sharing. It seems as though we had similar experiences growing up. My sisters and I used to say we had three Christmases. We would go to my mother’s parents and have a Danish Christmas, with a big dinner, then gifts and music. My grandfather and his friends would play their instruments and us girls would dance. We would then head home and quickly be put to bed. My parents would then put up the tree, meaning bring in the house and decorate. If time allotted they would put up a train garden, but often there was still gifts to wrap or assemble. It was wonderful to go to bed with no Christmas and wake to find Santa had been very busy. I have been told this is an old German tradition. Later we would travel to my father’s mother to spend the afternoon there.
As we had discussed the other day, my family is struggling with morphing our traditions. My children are older now, and have never had the occasion to stay home for Christmas and have family come to visit. Nor have I. This year we had the opportunity to try it and it has not been well received by my mother, whose house we have continued to get up and go to on Christmas morning. My children have always woken to open gifts and not get to play with them, only to quickly get ready to leave and start the day of traveling. Being that their father and I are divorced, there have been years where they may not return to my house, or their gifts, for days.
It is this turmoil that has me in a funk. It seems folks have lost the Christmas spirit. Now days though, it seems so hectic. Maybe it is all the commercialism and that the decorations start coming out in the stores in the early fall. When did folks become so selfish at Christmas? I agree it should be about the giving – not the receiving.
Anyway, reading through your Christmas experiences was encouraging. I wish you and your whole family, a very merry Christmas.
Amy,
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I always enjoy hearing stories of other people’s holiday traditions. I imagine it must be tough having to stretch yourself thin this time of year; it can make it difficult to get in the spirit. I don’t know why it seems so many people would prefer to breeze through the holidays rather than enjoy them, but for me, it goes by too fast. Hope your family has a great holiday as well and keep checking in as my journey to complete my 30 before 30 continues!
As the inventor of “The Pageant” at age 11, I humbly say “you’re welcome”. It started as a way for me to recieve attention for my dramatic theatrics, though it soon became a wonderful way to differentiate (with gratitude) between the blessings we had recieved at the table , and the blessings we were about to recieve under the tree! My words (or tears) can’t possibly relate to you how much I miss those Christmas Eves.
Sis,
Looking back on things now, I’m so glad we had those times at Grandmom’s. Thanks for starting it up so we could continue it.
Well, you did it this time, Jimmy. Got your Mom all weepy. Loved your Christmas tale of our families. Grandmom Marge is smiling down on you right now. And Grandmom and Grandpop are going to really get a kick out of this one!
Get ready, Bud. That trip across the bridge is only a couple weeks away!
Thanks Mom as always for the compliments. Glad you enjoyed it. You know me and Christmas! Can’t wait!
Ah, to be a kid again when it was all about the loot! I can remember getting calls early on Christmas day listening to the list of toys they got and telling the stories of opening that treasured gift. Some of my toys got so much play on day 1 that they didn’t even make it to day 2.
As I got older, I realized that it wasn’t about the receiving, but about the giving (although the receiving was still pretty great). Now, being parents, the percentages fell to 95/5 (giving/receiving); but the feeling could not be better. Sure, its nice to get some new clothes and maybe some cool toys, but its more satisfying seeing your kids light up because Santa got them that special gift they have been wishing for (this year, its Buzz Lightyear for my kids).
I think your title says it all – Get in the Christmas Spirit. But, not for the receiving, for the giving. Give a little bit and you will receive the best gift of all. The gift of a happy recipient.
Couldn’t agree with you more Ian. I’ve felt the scale tipping in the giving direction as I’ve gotten older but the kids take it to a different level. Nothing like watching someone light up at the sight of the gift you just gave them.
“Oh well, I suppose she deserved some presents too. ” Haha! Love your blog, mister!
Thanks Tori! Appreciate the comment. While I always felt I deserved more presents than my sister, I understood that Santa had to be fair…all that backroom politics you know.