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family, humor, Jim Chaney, kids, life, marathon, running, sports, The Wordslinger
The Baltimore Marathon got under way at 8:00am on Saturday. A little more than two hours later, the winner crossed the finish line. For the next five hours, runners of all ages, sexes, and skill levels had their moment to shine as they put their stamp on the 2011 running festival and in the process, accomplished what many consider one of the greatest feats in sports. I saw it all…from the couch in my living room.
That’s right folks, no medal for me this year. No celebration for a job well done. No busting through that wall of mental fatigue as I finally see the finish line, cranking up Peter Cetera’s “Glory Of Love”, and sprinting the final hundred yards. What? You mean that’s not your “go-to” song? Umm…anyway, no marathon for me this year.
As the big day approached and throughout the telecast, I felt the sting of disappointment, knowing that I should have been out there with all of those motivated runners. I had mentioned in a recent post that my training had been, what some might call “non-existent”, but that I was going to attempt the race anyway. “It’s all mental,” I told myself. “You’ve done it before, you know what to expect, that’s your advantage.” And while anyone who has run a marathon will testify to that statement, they would likely add that it is also, very much, physical.
You can psyche yourself up as much as you’d like, but at the end of the day, you still have to run 26.2 miles. With about 2 weeks to race day, I finally got off my keester, laced up the shoes, and headed out for a training run. I completed about five miles in under 50 minutes, the pace I was looking for in order to complete the marathon in under five hours. While I was happy with those results, I was disappointed in what I learned during the run. By mile four, my legs felt heavy. My breathing wasn’t as consistent and un-labored as it should have been, and I relied far too heavily on my water bottle. It all added up to the realization that I simply was not ready.
Having not trained all year, I was already making a pretty foolish decision by even thinking of running. But there comes a moment when you cross the line from being foolish, to being unsafe. After that practice run, it occurred to me that I could actually hurt myself if I attempted such a grueling distance, so I made the call to sit it out.
I was disappointment in myself for several days, feeling like there was no excuse for not running the race. “I had all year to prepare for this,” I thought to myself. “I really dropped the ball.” But as I sat at home trying to rationalize my decision, I came to another realization that quickly extinguished my disappointment; life got in the way. People tend to use that excuse to justify why things didn’t get done. Often times, it’s more of a cop-out than an honest answer and I know I’ve been guilty of it from time to time. But as I look around and take stock of what my life has become over the past several years, I think it’s a perfectly acceptable defense.
Go for a run or watch Jake take his first steps?
Go for a run or take Iz and the Jakester to the pool?
Go for a run or fix a leaky faucet? Hmmm…that’s a tough one.
But you get the point. Training for a marathon takes a serious commitment. I know because I’ve done it before. You know what else takes a serious commitment? Keeping up with my two rugrats! I have every intention of pounding the pavement again someday soon and crossing that finish line with Peter belting it out in my ears. But for now, I’m content with simply running after my little ones as we chase each other in the yard.
What a great post! Loved the idea of ‘you can prepare yourself as much as you like- but you still have to run it’. That’s the stumbling block! And being a dad is a great achievement that’s on par with any race! I like how you’ve compared to two. Sometimes big events make you think about life don’t they?
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Worry not Jim. You’ll get the race in sometime down the road. I ran three marathons when I was a teenager. There is NO WAY I could ever even dream of being able to run one with kids in the house. You are right, the training time just totally takes away from your kid time. Wait a while and you will have more time down the road. Good luck!
You did the right thing. I pushed myself, several years ago, to do a cross-country hike I was in NO way ready for. I damaged my right hip, and before it healed properly, I fell down some stairs and now have a permanent “hitch”, plus I can’t raise my leg when bending at the waist.
Better to come out intact. You’ll do it another day, you have too much drive to let it slip away. And we’ll cheer you all the same!
John,
Sorry to hear about you “hitch”. I agree that I made the right decision for the sake of safety. And thanks as always for the kind words of encouragement!
Sounds to me like life is just as it should be. They’re only young once. Good job buddy.
I agree Ms. Vic. Life is quite nice right now!
I’ve come to the realization that I dislike Bucket Lists, or lists that set-up a time limit to achieve goals. I’m not saying we shouldn’t set goals for ourselves, but once you put a time limit on the goal, then it becomes worse when you don’t achieve the goal because you are, indeed, too busy living life. You’ve already run a marathon, that’s awesome! This year you perfected the art of being a dad, and that is just as awesome. My new goal for my life is to live every day and find join in it, even if it is by doing something small. That way I can’t let myself down, but I can set myself up for multiple successes and being open to whatever adventures come my way.
Lisa,
I am coming to the same realization about my list as well. Thanks as always for the comments!